Sibling Grief: For young adults whose brother or sister has died.
A 6-session online group program for ages 18–35.
Starting Monday 20th April, 7:30–9pm AEST.
Your sibling died.
And somehow, everyone expected you to keep going.
The focus shifted to your parents. Your friends didn't know what to say. And you found yourself somewhere in the middle — holding it together for everyone else, while quietly falling apart on your own.
Nobody gave you a roadmap for this.
Nobody told you that sibling grief is one of the most profound and least supported losses a person can carry. That the person who knew you your whole life — who shared your history, your home, your parents — would just be gone. And that you'd spend years trying to explain why you're still not okay.
You are not broken. You were never given the skills to understand what's happening inside you.
That's what The Grief Lab is for.
TheGriefLab: Sibling Grief is a small group program built specifically for young adults aged 18–35 whose brother or sister has died.
Over six sessions, you'll build a real understanding of your grief — not to get over it, but to understand what it's doing in your body and your life, and who you are becoming because of it.
This is not therapy. It's grief education with a live, relational container — where you're not alone with what you're carrying, and where everything you already have is the starting point.
The details:
- 6 sessions × 90 minutes
- Monday nights, 7:30–9pm AEST
- Starting 20th April 2026
- Online via Zoom
- Maximum 6 participants
- Scholarship places available
What You'll Cover:
Session 1 - What You Already Have
We start with your strengths, not your deficits. You've survived something most people can't imagine. This session names what's already inside you.
Session 2 — What Grief Actually Is
The myths, the science, the difference between your emotions and your actions. Grief is not what most people think it is. environment.
Session 3 — Your Body Knows
How grief lives in the body, what the research says about your heart and nervous system, and practical tools to regulate when things feel overwhelming.
Session 4 — The Sibling Experience
The specific grief that belongs to you — not your parents, not your family. What it means to lose the person who knew you longest.
Session 5 — Still Connected
The relationship with your sibling didn't end when they died. This session explores what that means and how to hold it.
Session 6 — Who You're Becoming
Grief changes you permanently. This session is about integrating that transformation — and deciding who you want to be because of it.
From Bianca
My brother Josh died when I was 16.
My mum died almost eight years ago.
Between those two deaths - and everything that cracked open in me because of them - I built LightsOut. A methodology grounded in the belief that grief is a skill gap, not a personal failing. That the pain isn't the problem. The absence of education is.
TheGriefLab is the deepest expression of that work. I'm a grief educator with a Diploma of Counselling, and I've presented this work at international conferences. But more than any of that - I know what it is to be the sibling left behind. To grieve while watching your parents grieve. To feel completely alone in a room full of people who love you.
This program was built from that place.
If you're between 18 and 35, and your brother or sister has died - this was made for you.
Investment
Founding Cohort Pricing: $297AUD
This is the only time TheGriefLab: Sibling Grief will be offered at this price. Founding cohort participants shape the program for everyone who comes after.
A limited number of full scholarship places are available for those who need them. Scholarship participants receive exactly the same experience - no distinctions, no exceptions.
All applicants - paying or scholarship - are asked to complete a short application first. This isn't about gatekeeping. It's about making sure the container is right for you, and that you're right for this group.
This program is for you if:
- Your brother or sister has died, and you're between 18 and 35
- You feel like you've been grieving largely alone
- You're exhausted from holding it together for the people around you
- You want to understand your grief, not just survive it
- You're ready to be in a small, held group with others who get it
This program is not therapy or crisis support. If you are in acute distress or crisis, please reach out to a mental health professional or contact Lifeline on
Frequently Asked Questions
Please reach us at hello@lightsout.app if you cannot find an answer to your question.
No. TheGriefLab is grief education delivered in a live group format. Bianca holds a Diploma of Counselling and extensive lived experience, but this program is not a substitute for professional mental health support.
Scholarship places are available. Apply and indicate you'd like to be considered - there's no difference in what you receive.
Sessions are recorded and made available to participants who miss one. Recordings are shared privately within the group only and are not published anywhere.
All of them. Whether your sibling died suddenly, after illness, by suicide, or by any other cause, you are welcome here.
Yes. Reach out via the contact form or DM on Instagram before applying if you'd like to have a conversation first.
This is a real container - which means real things come up. If something surfaces during the program that needs more support than this group can hold, I will help you find it. That might mean a referral to a grief counsellor, a mental health professional, or a crisis service. You will never be left without a next step.
If you are currently in crisis or acute distress, please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 before applying.
Yes, and it matters.
TheGriefLab works best when you are not in the immediate acute phase of grief. If your sibling died very recently - in the last few weeks or months - this program may not be the right fit right now. Not because your grief isn't valid, but because what you need in those first weeks is different from what this container offers.
If you're unsure whether the timing is right for you, reach out before applying. I'd rather have that conversation with you honestly than have you arrive before you're ready.
There is no expiry on your grief. This program will be here when the time is right.
Because of the small group nature of this program and the commitment required from every participant, the following applies:
More than 7 days before the program starts: Full refund, no questions asked.
Within 7 days of the start date: 50% refund.
After the program has started: No refund, but if something significant happens in your life that means you genuinely cannot continue, please reach out. I will always try to find a solution that works for both of us.
Scholarship places are non-refundable.
Applications close 15th April. Six places only.
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DISCLAIMER
LightsOut provides grief education and skills development.
This program does not replace professional mental health care.
If you are in crisis, please contact: - Lifeline: 13 11 14 - Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 - Emergency: 000
By using LightsOut, you acknowledge responsibility for your own wellbeing.
LightsOut is not liable for any outcomes resulting from program participation.
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